I want to Welcome Sam Standish to GGR today. We are going to talk about SEX so if you don’t want to see it just close your eyes and start on this post about 1/2 way down, for the rest of you this may be eye opening.
The Interview with Sam Standish:
GGR: So, Sam, you describe a whole lot of wild sexual goings-on in your debut novel, Making Men. Those guys do almost anything to reach one another.
SS: Yes, they do!
GGR: So I hope you don’t mind if we ask, well…how much of it comes from your own experience?
SS: [Laughs heartily in appreciation.] Like what?
SS: So, run down the list and I’ll do my best to answer!
GGR: Okay. First of all, obviously, the uncle/nephew thing. Have you ever had sex with someone you were related to?
SS: No. And I’ll point out that the designations “uncle” and “nephew” in Making Men are symbolic.Both guys are of age and close in age, and the “nephew” is often the initiator. I do myself have a nephew whom I love intensely, but there has never been anything sexual between us. There just couldn’t be. He is straight, very sweet, very smart, and he struggles quietly against a tremendous vulnerability he has. I think at times he has had a hard time protecting himself. But he can nonetheless be deeply and unreservedly loving. In part his wife brought that out in him. She’s amazing.
GGR: So, next up: what about the threesome thing? Making Men has a long-running three-way Have you ever done that?
SS: Not long-running. I’ve been part of threesomes in sex clubs, of course, though even there, a really good threesome hard to come by. You need men who are open, mature, unashamed, giving and trusting. And in those settings you have to demonstrate those qualities with guys you’ve just met. I aspire to those qualities; that’s why I made a threesome the heart of my book. In real life, where you can’t wander off if you’re uncomfortable or disappointed, threesomes are harder. It’s not always easy for the guys in my book, especially the young one, who still wants to color outside the lines and not commit himself. I was never part of an ongoing threesome. I do remember one sudden threesome. The other two guys were longtime friends but had never had sex before. Their explorations were sweet—I remember one of them reaching out his toe to touch the tip of the other’s cock—but also tentative. I was the only one who came.
GGR: Speaking of coming, all that semen being shot and consumed in the book. Are you into that?
SS: I’ve shot in a lot of guys’ mouths but have not taken a lot of semen myself. There’s a health issue, but even when there isn’t I’m shy about it. I’m not a big shooter, though there was a time I was trying to cut back on my masturbation. I ended up abstaining for, like, six weeks. When I finally got together with a guy I was shocked. Spurt after spurt, effortlessly. He couldn’t stop talking about it. I confessed it wasn’t usual for me. One of my fuck buddies goes for long stretches without. He once gave me a facial where it dripped down all over my chest, too. I also remember this dude I was with on his back, shooting up so high you could hear it splatter down. I have that in Making Men quite a bit—semen audibly hitting a body or wall or floor.
GGR: Whoa. Sure gets me going. How about the fucking? Everyone in the book is versatile. Often the more boyish or effeminate characters are fucking the bigger, masculine ones. Are you versatile?
SS: Absolutely. I tend to a little more hard-wired to penetrate, but I love getting fucked, too. I mean, another guy’s hard penis up inside your ass. Even if there’s pain, I adore it. The way guys get into the hunger, the drive. My first lover was a rather indecisive, put-upon guy much of the time. Somewhat ineffectual. But he became another man when he fucked me. Commanding and focused. It was so hot to see him transformed into this decisive, hungry man. And we’d been tested, so we barebacked. His is the only semen I ever had in my ass. Though we broke up some years ago, he is still special to me for that reason. He was very uninhibited about experiencing orgasm. He yelled and thrashed around and went red in the face, and I felt this hard organ of this usually timid man discharging inside me. Then he’d leave it in while I came. He was very considerate, too, as Tony is in the book. Careful not to hurt me. Other guys who’ve fucked me have done it with rubbers, but there is a nice thing about that: you see the sperm. I remember this buddy pulling out after he came and saying, “Look at all that!” The rubber was really full. I took it off him and dripped the semen into my hand and then jerked off on his chest.
GGR: Sex outdoors?
SS: Oh, sure. I live in a heavily wooded area, so it’s possible to get off alone or with a buddy and not be caught. I spent a nice afternoon in the woods with a local friend, naked and just doing about everything. I was on top of him and he whispered, “Go slow. I got the whole afternoon!” Well, that made me shoot right there. But I recovered and we did a bunch of other stuff. The funny thing, you get so involved in the sex, you lose your awareness of being outdoors. It’s actually less sexy than looking at pictures of guys doing it outdoors. I kind of think that’s what porn is for: so we can experience stuff from the outside that we “forget” to experience when we are in the act.
GGR: OK, here’s a change-up. Making Men is unusual in that is has a fair amount of physical discipline, but it’s not a book entirely about that. What are your own experiences with spankings, paddlings, etc.?
SS: Actually, the book is almost entirely about discipline. The discipline of loving. But yes, the actual corporal punishment is a small part. As with fucking, I’m versatile with physical punishment. I have a fair amount of experience, but it’s hard to find partners who really know what they’re doing and what they want. It’s complex. There’s the act itself, the pain, but then there’s the role-play, who not everyone is comfortable with. And guys’ scenarios can be very specific. That buddy who I said gave me the huge facial? I love him spanking me because he has very large hands. I also like implements, especially paddles and hairbrushes. I don’t like anything fancy: restraints, special whips, special outfits. Paddle me like a bro, I say. Hard and fast and bareass. Some ritual is nice, though. There’s lots of ritual around corporal punishment in Making Men, but in real life, few guys are patient or creative enough to do that.
GGR: How about when the guys gets his dick and balls spanked? Ever tried that?
SS: Only as research for the book. I did it to myself. Spanking my dick was OK but not amazing. Spanking my balls was amazing. But it does hurt, it aches, for a while. I’d suggest anyone who wants to try it read up on precautions first.
GGR: Anything else you did specifically because you wanted to write about it?
SS: No, I was either pretty well versed in the other stuff, or it was too time-consuming or difficult to arrange.
GGR: You’ve even jacked off naked outdoors in winter?
SS: Oh, sure.
GGR: How about having sex with a very old man, as Kevin does at one point?
SS: I have not done that. I just imagined it. It’s a great scene, if I do say so myself. Maybe I should have tried to have that experience…
GGR: How about getting it in the ass from a bunch of guys, as the boy does in the frat?
SS: Alas, no. I’d love that, but when you settle down in life and have to write and earn money, you’re just not in the milieu where it happens. If it happens at all outside of porn!
GGR: How about the singing?
SS: Yeah, I love that scene. I might as well answer about the singing and the soccer at the same time. I suck at both. It’s too bad. It’s been hard for me to claim any physical skill, like music or sports. In the book those things are symbols of the guys’ connection to their bodies, their openness and joy in being alive and being dads to young Oliver. More stuff I aspire to but could never get myself to achieve.
GGR: Speaking of being a dad, how about the adoption at the end?
SS: If I were younger and had the money I’d do it. But again, think of it as symbolic. The openness of Kevin’s heart that he just does it—bam!
GGR: I see. Well thanks for being so candid today.
SS: I was happy to! Thanks for having me. And thanks for reading, everyone! And don’t forget to enter the giveaway!
Three passionate men. Tony and Kevin are older and have learned to give, body and soul, till it hurts. Into their lives comes another young man, wanting desperately to give and to take all he can. Together these three will reach heights they never imagined. And each will discover for himself where he has to go next. This is a tale of devotion and transcendence. A tale of young male bodies. A tale unlike any other you have ever read.
Kevin got to see the different ways men cum. Used to believing that forceful streams were the manly ideal, he began to see the different ways men expressed seed. Eric, a buddy from the next dorm, possessed an enormously long, thick cock, which he simply clutched at the root, stretching the skin until orgasm swept over him, and the sperm popped out and slid in gobs down his shaft and over his hand as it clutched the base. Kevin and Eric stared breathless at the gobs sliding down and gathering around the base, a sight you could not enjoy if you shot your stuff abruptly.
Steve came as Eric did, but he made a circle of thumb and forefinger at the end of his cock, so the semen pooled and quivered. So used to appreciating the distance and force of ejaculation, Kevin licked his lips and watched the trembling pool, heart thudding as the reality of a man’s jism confronted him, that jism coming to light now for the first and last time.
Kevin came to like Eric’s and Steve’s ways. “Shooting” was abstraction—speed and distance. You could touch and taste the seed after, on a sheet or wall or, best of all, on a trembling body, but the actual moment of emergence was ended too soon. The drops you ate up could have come from anywhere. But Eric and Steve brought their seed out slowly and confronted it. Eric liked, when he came, to have Kevin also come, right onto his shaft, all of it sliding down together, as though their loads came from the same man.Steve circled another finger at the top of his cock, making a place for Kevin to add himself. The two stared at the huge pool, feeling supremely powerful and overpowered.